By Charles C. Opara
People always talk about desire, how can I desire the right man into my life, how can I desire the right woman into my life, I no longer feel desired to my woman, there is loss of desire in our relationship and the questions about desire continues.There are so many things that can get you distracted in your relationship and kill your desire towards your partner. Some of them are external which are not difficult to handle but the most stubborn one are the one that are internal, they are within you and it takes time before you’re able to deal with them.
As a man, you should know how to avoid these desires. If you cannot get rid of them, you’ll continue to lose desire in every of your relationship. I know, these thing are sometimes, not easy to do away with, but it take time before you’re able to master it, and when then, you will realize that, they really worth it.
5 DESIRES IN RELATIONSHIP EVERY MAN SHOULD AVOID
- Controlling behaviour
Man naturally, has that tendency to control and be in charge. If you look at all area of life and your nearest community, you will see how men behave, how they act, how they talk and how they do nearly everything, it is all about having control in every area they find themselves. This controlling behaviour, as good as it is for men in every other part of their. Of course, you’re the man, in relationship is better to assume you’re equal, and not taking yourself as superior over your woman.
Maybe you should check it out yourself, any relationship that the man is having, there is bound to be loss of desires in that relationship. No matter how romantic the man can be, the woman can only pretend, deep within her, you’re not attracted to her as much as it is when you first started your relationship. What you need to do here is this, learn to leave your bossing nature outside of your relationship and you will never lose your woman desire in your relationship.
- If you always allow women to lead
Another critical area, in which you need to look into your life, if you want to sustain your relationship desires, IS NOT TO ALWAYS ALLOW YOUR WOMAN TO LEAD. you should always be in the for front of the leadership in your relationship. This is not about being in control of everything, which will amount to controlling behaviour. Yes of course, man are supposed to lead, you take the direction of where you want your relationship to head, but not a solely decision. She can add her input, but you will have to harmonized everything and give the directives of how it will all goes.
If you always allow your woman to lead, then you’re not a man of action. You will eventually look like a house boy, because you don’t have much to say in that relationship. Your role has been taken by the woman and there is no way she can be desired to you anymore, as I said earlier, you’re just like her house boy. So, how can she be desired to her house boy? Think of it, what it means is to give a woman absolute power in your relationship.
- Being Rude and Disrespectful
This is just too simple for every man to understand but I will still say some little thing about it. You see, nobody want to be disrespected, in fact everybody want the place of honour. Even though a woman is like a subordinate to you, that doesn’t mean you should treat her with disdain, you should never be rude to her, else, you’re killing the desire she has for you anytime you do that, treat her as you want to be treated, which is just the plain truth.
- Putting woman under pressure
This apply to both men and woman, you can never be desired to anyone that put you under any kind of pressure. So, men take something from that statement, and never try to put your woman under any kind of pressure under any disguise of whatsoever. A very good example here are, your continuous monitoring of all her activities, trying to know everything she does outside of your vicinity, trying to poke nose into her personal life and other many wrong kind of attitudes, these can put any woman under pressure. Let her be, she has her life to live as well. If you don’t stop putting her under pressure, sure, the desire she has for you will be gone without questioning.
- Being boring and predictable
When a man is predictable, which means, every of his steps is already known ahead, then there is nothing intriguing about him. Such a man will be a stereotypic man, boring and nothing new that can spark desire for his woman. Tell me, as man, would you feel attracted to a woman that is stereotype and boring? The obvious answer is a capital ‘NO’. You may feel so much attraction at the initial stage of your relationship, but as you get used to one another, the attraction level begin to diminish, as there is nothing new as you continue in that relationship. So guys, you need to be dynamics, you need to come up with different exciting and romantic ideas every now and then, to keep her attracted to you every time she’s with you and when she’s away from you, the misses of the exciting talks, play, and pleasurable moment she always has with you, will keep her wanting to be with you if possible, every time.
How to Bring Back Loss of desire in Your Relationship
When your relationship first started, there is so much energy flowing to and fro between the two of you that are in that relationship. This energy is in form of attraction and in fact, it almost takes all of your time in that relationship. It is natural for attraction to flow in that way, but as times goes on, you will become familiar with your partner and some of those things that got you attracted to your partner will start to fade away. Some other circumstance will too will arise and they all have negative effect on your attraction toward your partner.
It can be very hurtful when your partner made it known to you that aren’t desired to you anymore, it will be like, what do you mean? Is something wrong with you? How can you tell me that or you’ve been seeing someone else outside of this relationship.
You know, the hurtful nature of such feelings can make anybody to get annoyed, and voice out in anger. You don’t have to blame your partner if perhaps you fall in this type of mess. What you need right now, is to find out HOW TO BRING BACK THE FEELING OF ATTRACTION INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
These few pointers will help you in bringing back your lost desires into your relationship
Get out of too much familiarity scene
When there is too much familiarity between people in relationship, it can cause loss of desire, because you don’t feel his or her absence anymore, your body tends to get familiar with the same feeling every now and then,
In situation like this, you may need to get away with friends for weekends, stay a night out with friends and let your absent be felt, by the time you will be re desire turning home, there will be a kind of reunion. You have been missed and your partner will long for your returns, so when you come meet him or her, the excitement will create the lost once again.
Learn to appreciate the attractive non-physical qualities in your partner
Create gratitude list of all what you admire in your partner, especially all the non-physical qualities that endear you to him or her. Take a look at your list and begin to appreciate it one after the other, be sincere about all of these and before you know it, you’ll be getting more attracted to your partner and that mean there is an increase in your feelings toward him or her.
Get involve with recreational activities with your partner
Start doing project together with your partner, join him in recreational activities, since recreational activities are often done for enjoyment, amusement, or pleasure and are considered to be “fun” and it also facilitate the refreshment of your body and mind after work. Both of you will begin to feel that spark co desire me alive again.
Proper communication with your partner on how to bring the back in your desire relationship
At times, you can’t just do it all alone; you will need to involve your partner in it. Communicate it with him or her about your concern and seek for how you both can work together to bring back the spark you’ll always experienced at the beginning of your relationship. If there is any way each of you could improve in the way you’ve been living your life since you have this desire, you need to start moving on the part of that improvement now. It is all about changes to a better person that your partner wants to see and be happy.
Check your facial appearance
Sometimes, neglecting your facial appearance can somewhat affect the attraction your partner have for you. Looks do matter, it has a very big role to play in attraction for the opposite and it is one of the very first things that endear you to your partner. So, why neglect and making yourself unattractive to your partner.
Following these few pointers on how to bring back the loss of attraction in your relationship, you’ll be a better for it. Sure, you just need to get back to it now and start implementing all of these changes as it affects you.