It may sound funny to say that love heals or to talk about the healing power of love. But it is true that love has ability to heal. Many studies have proving that having closed; positive, intimate, loving connections with people have tremendous positive implications for ones’ health and longevity. But despite this proof, doubt and confusion about the healing capability of loves still arise because in English we have only one word to describe many types of love which are; Philia, Storge, Eros and Agape. We also confuse all types of love with infatuation and feeling that come with some expectations or conditions. Some of these types of love also inspire Agape, although some are not required. Affection, care, tenderness has healing powers on their own way, but Agape takes it even deeper.
Agape is love in its purest form. It is an attribute of the divine love. It is the true and unconditional love that has no strings attached. This is the patient, kind, compassionate, forgiving, unselfish etc love explained in 1Corinthian 13. The understanding is that these words describe the attributes of God. In this message, Fr. Mbaka enjoins the Christians to always exhibit these attribute of divine love in all aspects of their lives as it is capable of bringing about all- round healings.
Healing signifies a return to wholeness. Healing arises the moment you align your mental and emotional frequency to coincide with love. Love heals, renews and restores the body back to normal. Love is a healing agent because its energy frequency is stronger than other emotions. Anxiety, anger, stress and other lower emotions overshadow this healing force of love.
A loving thought can heal but a negative thought can create illness. As you heal your thoughts, your body discovers its inherent healing power. Choosing to become a loving person can result in the release of endorphins by the brain which has a profound effect on the body’s health and happiness.
Love is infectious and is the greatest healing power. Walking and living in love is the highest spiritual exercise. Living in love allows us to make decisions based in love. Therefore, love one another and help others to rise to the higher levels, simply by pouring out love .A feeling of love unexpressed is dead. Love can be expressed in so many ways; compassion, giving of your resources, understanding, empathy, listening not just hearing, patience , gentleness, teaching, encouragement, tolerance, acceptance, forgiveness, and support.
Most people in today’s society become so busy that they don’t take their time to appreciate the gratitude and receive the love and blessings from relationships. People fill their lives with many activities to the extent that they prefer possessions to humans. Human relationship seems to be a great importance to your level of happiness, health and longevity. Having people look after you, offering great affection and care makes it possible for you to be healthier and live longer. It can do wonders for the body, mind and soul. Do you know that loneliness can kill faster than smoking cigarettes?
Love seems to be a mystery to all of us. Those in an intimate committed relationship are touched by the healing power of love in a special way. Your life partner, family, or friends can give you an opportunity to develop patience, understanding, courage, compassion, forgiveness and fulfill your deepest desires and purpose in life.
Studies have proving that love can prevent stress-related diseases;
Being in an intimate loving relationship has great benefits to your health. Many studies and research have been done to prove that having close, positive, intimate, loving connections with people have tremendous positive implications for your health and longevity. It can prevent depression, anxiety, and stress- related diseases which can contribute to the quality of your life. Certain hormones called adrenaline are produced when the body is under stress. When these hormones are secreted throughout your body, your immune function decreases. Stress is the root to illness and if it continues, it can be a matter of life and death. The healing power of love in your life can neutralize the effects of stress by lowering the production of the stress hormones.
Moreover, when we hug, cuddle and enjoy quality time with friends and family, our brain releases oxytocin, also called the love hormones. This hormone bond you with others, protect you from the effect of stress and literally heals your heart. On the other hand, stress or more accurately, distress tells the cell to prepare for attack. Stress hormones limit the body’s ability to repair itself and heal. Stress also causes you to make unhealthy choices and to stay stuck. At times, it damages your physical and mental health
Again, when someone is hurting, we instinctively offer tender touches, and special care. Our spirits respond whether we are on the giving or receiving end of even small kindness. Unconditional love creates relaxation and space for healing. It sends your cells the message to repair, rejuvenate and create.
Of all types of love, Agape is the true love;
However, Confusion about love as a healing agent arises because in English, we have one word to describe many types of love. We also confuse all types of love with infatuation or the fulfilling of a need or an emotional trade of some kind. Our typical understanding of love is that it is a feeling and along with that feeling, comes expectations and conditions.
True love goes beyond a mere feeling. When we are fortunate enough to experience it, both as a giver and receiver, we find that love heals the mind, spirit and body. True love is an agape love. It is an unconditional love. It comes with no strings attached. Agape is love in its purest form. It is the fountain from which all goodness and healing for yourself and the world flows. This love heals, transform and inspires because it is powerful beyond measures. This unconditional love feels good because it is good. This is the patient , kind , compassionate, forbearing, forgiving, honorable, righteous and unselfish love explained in 1 Corinthians 13. The understanding is that these words describe the attributes of God. Christians are therefore, enjoined to embody these attributes.
Those who are in the healing ministry often times make mistake. They manifest inhumanity injustice, and wickedness to people and at the same time, keep on praying for divine healing. Some healing can never occur until love had occurred. Love is a prerogative factor for healing. So if you are not living a life of love, you are not living right. It can have a negative effect on your health.
Anybody who is perpetrating atrocities and wickedness is attracting the wrath of God. Stop manifesting the inhumanity of man to man nor maltreat anybody, not even the smallest in your family, because the person can rise up above you one day. Do not make someone to be in pain, to be sorrowful, or to cry. Don’t inflict pains on someone nor make someone to shed tears. Rather, show love to people around you as much as you can. Conquer anger with love. Are you assassinating anybody through your tongue? You got to stop it. Character assassination is not good. Do not take pleasure in tarnishing someone’s image. Live a life of love and heal your life.
Christians should be loving, gentle, compassionate, forgiving, kind, humble, and tolerant. They should behave like Christ. Was it not at Antioch in Pisidia in Acts 11; 26 that the followers of Christ were first called Christians because they were living like Christ? You have to behave, do good, heal, deliver, eat, smile and work like Christ.
A lawyer came to Jesus and asked what the most important commandment is in Mathew 22, Jesus responded, ‘’you shall love the lord your God with all your hearts and with all your soul and mind. Secondly, you shall love your neighbor as yourself. In these two commandments, rest the law. It is the agape love that Jesus was talking about. You cannot see God to love, but you can only love God through human beings, that is, the love of neighbor. All of Christianity comes down to how we love God and how everything we do, i.e. relationship, work, etc displays our love of God. No success, status, possession will matter at the end of our days, how we loved God and loved our neighbors will be our victory.
In Luke 23; 34, Jesus said, “father forgive them because they do not know what they are doing”. Many of us do not have the hearts of forgiveness. Love and forgiveness work hand in hand. Love can also be expressed in forgiving your offenders. Forgiving those who have wronged you Whole-heartedly is therapeutic. You are the person that benefits more from your act of forgiveness and not the other person , because when you forgive, your heart get healed from the pains you have been inflicted upon. When you forgive, you become happy. One time president of America was interviewed in his old age. ”what is the secret of your healthy life”. He said, “I eat little, I don’t accommodate stress and I forgive always”.
There is a big difference between loving yourself and being selfish. Many Christians are simply selfish. When you go to some personal account, you will see how much one person is accumulating. Many of you are living a life of worldliness in the Christian family which is an aberration. You are not supposed to have more than enough when your neighbors are dying of hunger. What is Christianity in our own time? So to you, Christianity means wearing a beautiful cloth after spending the early hours of Sunday, painting your faces and perfuming your bodies and at the end, come late to church. Is that Christianity for you? Christianity without love is just a mere beautiful casket that nobody can live in.
Look for a neighbor to help. Anything you are not using and it is in your house is condemning you. Why should you harbor a material that you no longer use but somebody needs? Once you get the ones that can serve you, the rest belongs to another person. Keep the much you can use, release others. Give them out to those who do not have. That is Christianity; that is agape love. A Christian should not suffer when other Christians are enjoying. The little you have, share with people who do not have. In act of apostles 2, none lacked anything because they shared everything they had in common. They were sharing the word, breaking the bread and praying together, and at the end, signs, wonders and miracles followed them. Any church that does not share with one love will hardly record authentic miracles, will hardly enjoy healing visitation of God. We came to this earth empty-handed; we will also go back empty-handed. Make use of the opportunity you have now to perform good works. Give alms, because Proverbs 10; 12 says, “Charity covers multitude of sins”.
How many years do you think you still have to live and you go to answer questions on how you spent your lives here on earth? With the whole of the expo given to us in Mathew 25, you are still failing the exams. Mathew 25; 35-36 says, when I was hungry, you gave me food! When I was thirsty, you gave me water! When I was naked, you gave me clothes to wear! When I was homeless, you gave me a home! When I was sick and in prison, you visited me!
It is these kinds of good works that Tobit did in the book of Tobit 3 that made God to intervene in his ugly condition. When he eventually became blind, God sent Arc Angel Michael to heal him. The possessed lady called Sarah, who turned out to be Tobias wife was also delivered from the spirit of Asmodeus because of the act of charity of Tobit
Some of us have been blessed enough to have been on the receiving end of the agape from others. But it is of greater blessing to give than to receive. Love can be expressed in giving, with no expectations or conditions attached. It is a gift you can give and receive at the same time. This gift is one of affection and of action. Giving is a spiritual phenomenon. God himself is the first giver because John 3;16 stated that, “God so love the world that He gave His only begotten son, that whosoever believe in Him shall not perish but have eternal life”. Hebrew 13; 2 says, be charitable to strangers, for many have attended to angels unawares. Be charitable and generous to the poor. No matter how poor you are, you are better than someone. Anytime you give out, you become greater and you attract more blessings. On the other hand, it makes you feel good for putting smiles on the faces of people. Remember, the highest receiver of the gift you are giving is most often yourself.
The healing power of self-love;
The actions of love can and will heal the world starting from you. It is the courage that comes from self love that allows us to act. It is true that in order to heal we will need healing acts from others, but it must start with us. This will allow us learn to act in a loving way towards others. Having love in our hearts is the key
I consider the cause of some illness and diseases abandonment from oneself. You must love yourself and embrace the wholeness of your being if you seek to heal your life. At the deepest level, your separation from your authentic self intensifies disease in mind and body. To merge with the whole of your being is a call to love. Self-criticism and self-hate instruct the body to turn on itself
Learn to value and care for yourself. Self-love means you accept yourself and take care of yourself mentally and physically. Also, allowing you to be open and receive from others is an act of self- love. For many of us, it is easier to extend a helping hand to others than to ourselves. When you do not love yourself, your body suffers. To heal, you have to put yourself at the top of the list. This is not about selfishness, you worth it. We are not talking about ego here, we are talking about valuing and accepting yourself because of who you are, because you were created, you are a part of the divine and you exist. You have to love yourself, before you can love others.
A healthy heart is a happy heart. To achieve optimal healthy heart, you must love yourself. Self-love heals when you exercise, eat a healthy diet, get enough rest, and maintain proper hygiene and a healthy lifestyle. But do you know that caring for your emotional and spiritual life is as important as caring for your physical being? When our bodies experience warm heartfelt emotions such as love, compassion, care and happiness, we feel good. Again, self-love heals when you spend time with your favorite people and doing what you enjoy, by yourself, without feeling guilty. Putting the healing power of love to work in your life is one of the greatest gift you can give yourself and others because, if you get stressed out, or sick, you cannot be of any service to anyone.
Real love makes us feel accepted, secure, and valuable. It touches our hearts and inspires us to be our best selves. Having affection towards others and knowing that they in turn care for us is heartwarming.
In conclusion, Love is a magnet of healing. Love heals not only your body but your mind and spirit as well. It is the force that heals others and our world. What is eternal is love’s enduring power.